Feeling blah? Try this.

Feeling Blah GreenI spent the first half of my day under an imaginary storm cloud today.

I was trapped in my pjs AND a cycle of unusually negative thoughts about a variety of – slightly hyperbolized – shortcomings as a mom, wife, sister, aunt, friend, entrepreneur…you name it.

Blah.

There are PLENTY of ways to snap out of the blahs like practicing gratitude, exercising, listening to great music, etc. But sometimes they involve more mental energy than I’ve got on tap.

So I’ve got a simple alternative. It’s a quick trick – and you can do it (HAVE to do it) in the comfort of your own home.

Check it.

In this video, I share:

  • Why working from home isn’t always what it’s cracked up to be
  • The SIMPLEST way to battle the work-from-home blues
  • The definition of a wardrobe mullet (and why they’re delightful yet dangerous)
  • What to do when your DREAM style doesn’t match your DAILY style
  • A fun challenge that involves your closet, your camera, and my Facebook page

Click below to watch (or take a listen):

In a (Coco)nut Shell

Get dressed? That’s the message?

YES. Because for some strange reason we need this reminder. Regularly.

If you need proof, here’s an excerpt from my Feb. 2012 blog post, Going Bananas in Pajamas:

I don’t know if this post is meant to be more of a confession or a call-to-action. Maybe it’s both. The point is, it’s not working for me anymore.

I have too many clothes (and fabulous accessories!) to let them go to waste, and life’s too short to feel frumpy all the day long. (Tweet that)

If I can put my four-month-old son in something cute every morning, I can do the same for myself.

So who cares (or knows?!) what day of the week it is:

Stay-at-home, work-at-home moms of the world…GET DRESSED! (Tweet that)

We’re worth it.

Your Homework

Let’s take the homework a step further this week, shall we?

Introducing…

The #getdressed Challenge

Join me!

For the next FIVE work days, make an effort to get dressed before breakfast. Make yourself feel GOOD. So good, in fact, that you just HAVE to snap a selfie and post it to my Facebook page or tag me (@nikkielledgebrown) in it on Instagram ;)

No, for real. Snap a selfie and tag me in it. (BONUS points if you also share your #1 WILL-do-while-dressed of the day!)

Go ahead and start planning your outfits now – because all of the sudden getting dressed feels a lot more exciting – but FIRST, in the comments below, tell me:

ARE YOU IN?

I hope so. Because this is going to be reeeeeally fun.

Can’t WAIT to see you Monday!

To real pants and lip gloss,

nik

P.S. Click here to invite your friends to join our #getdressed challenge on Twitter. The more, the merrier!

(Or click here to tweet about wardrobe mullets. Just because.)

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LET’S TALK ABOUT IT.

  1. Shantini

    Hi there Nikki! Count me in for the challenge!

    Thank you so much for your super simple tip and your super cute video :-) I work from home and I totally let myself get into Frump Mode, big time!

    It’s at the point where I’m too embarrassed to agree to video calls on Skype and insist on just voice calls (I tell ’em that the video messes with the quality of the audio but really it’s coz I look like a Viva La Mega Frump!)

    Thanks again for sharing and making me feel like I’m not the only one. I LOVE your gorgeous site and all that you do :-) Can’t wait to start the challenge on Monday!

    1. Nikki Elledge Brown

      Pahaha Shantini I’m totally LingOL at this! I have absolutely used the “audio quality” excuse before. (But it really is legit sometimes! ;))

      No MORE, lady. Time to dress to impress ourselves. Even if nobody else is peeking.

    2. Celyn Lila Nicholson

      Ok, last time you did the challenge I was in nooooo place to even worry about my outfit : brand new third baby who refused to let his mama sleep… So the first thing my hand was grabbing in my closet or in my not-so-sure-this-goes-just-yet-in-the-laundry-bin was on me for the day. Add bad hair day and tired look … Sexy mama, all right!

      But now? Why not ! I am in. I don’t have tons of clothes so that might be interesting to see new combos emerging…!

  2. Cathy

    Good one, Nikki. I’ve been reading posts and hearing things over the last few days that are sending me the message to “Just BE Me!” – no need to DO anything more (it’s actually bad for your health!) Anyway, after finally “getting it” in the middle of the night, what did I do? I got up, saw it was pouring rain, and threw on the same old pair of jeans & Gap T to walk my son to school, even though it was far from what I felt like wearing.

    Well, no more, when I’m done with this comment, I’m marching myself upstairs and pulling out the flowy skirt I had the urge to wear in the first place. Heck, it’s cotton, it’ll dry. But I’ll feel so much more like the ME I want to express today.

    Incidentally, Fly Lady (who’s all about efficiently keeping your home clean & decluttered by creating 10 minute habits) starts with Getting Dressed as the very first thing you need to do, including shoes, so you’re set for the day, no matter what comes up. And Kate Northrup suggests you put on some lipstick & some fun music before paying your bills, because the mood you set will translate to the task at hand.

    Being dressed for success takes on whole new meaning!

    1. Nikki Elledge Brown

      Great examples, Cathy! Thanks for sharing.

      And I love how you said “the ME I want to express today.”

      That’s exactly it.

  3. annabel

    OMG Nikki – this made me laugh so much! You probably know that here in the UK “pants” are what you call “underwear” (I think) … if you re-listen to your video with this translation in mind you’ll get why I found it so funny! The idea of you sat there considering whether or not to put on your underwear before shooting a video etc?!!!!! Love the message though x

    1. Shalon

      LOL!!!

    2. Nikki Elledge Brown

      Haha YES, Annabel…several friends pointed that out to me when I first shared the idea of “brand pants” :P

      So indeed, to all in the UK and elsewhere – please realize I’m referring to TROUSERS, not undies.

      Thanks for the reminder to clarify ;)

  4. Laurisa

    Super excited about this challenge! This seriously is the best way to make a shift in your mood! I am much more productive when I get up and get dressed! I also like to do a little spiritual, mental and physical workout before I start my day! (Doesn’t always happen but when it does it always makes it a great day!)

    1. Nikki Elledge Brown

      Glad you’re joining the #getdressed party, Laurisa :)

  5. Shalon

    I’m IN! This seriously does make a difference…for my own mood, and for my kids’ moods. Got dressed before 9 this morning, and I’m feeling totally on top of my game. Love the video!

  6. Lillian

    LOVE this! I gave myself this pledge about a month ago. I said,” I’m going to wear a bra and real pants for each and every day of work!” Seriously it does make a difference. Even the kids were asking if I was going somewhere. I have to be dressed to work or I feel blah. Thanks Nikki for making me understand I’m not alone.

    1. Nikki Elledge Brown

      haha YES, Lillian! If I’m dressed early in the day, B asks, “Mommy where WE goin’??” ;)

      Time to set a better (more clothed) example.

  7. Chiquandra

    Hey Nikki, I love this message. I get dressed everyday for my “day” job, however, I don’t consistently put a lot of effort into it, and I usually don’t wear make-up. So, I’m committed to putting on a full face everyday next week (which is my birthday week) and doing something fun and inspiring with my hair.

    Thanks for challenging us to step up our game and get the “self-celebration” party started.

    1. Nikki Elledge Brown

      Happy almost birthday week, Chiquandra! (And high five for June babies.)

      Perfect excuse to pamper yourself a bit more than usual :)

  8. Carin Kilby Clark

    I love it! And sooooo needed… I won’t tell you that I’m working from home on this fine Friday still in my jammies at 10:20 am and feeling like I could use a nap right about now – you didn’t hear that from me. LOL. I’m in :)

    1. Nikki Elledge Brown

      Y’all are cracking me UP :) Excited to #getdressed with you next week, Carin!

      (Yes that sounds totally awkward, but I’m leaving it anyway.)

  9. stephanie

    Love this! I went through this same “yuck” a few months ago. I was taking my kids to school in my pj’s and fuzzy slippers. Praying I didn’t get pulled over or have car trouble. Anyway…I did the same thing. Decided to spruce myself a bit.

    Now I get dressed maybe not dressed up but at least dressed. I put on a little mascara & lip gloss and ta dahhh…I instantly feel better. I also found that since I was dressed I was more likely to get out of the house to grab lunch or afternoon coffee for a change of scenery.

    1. Nikki Elledge Brown

      Yes, Stephanie! It just gets the gears in motion. Like putting on your tennis shoes even if your brain says, “But I don’t wannnnnnna go for a walk!”

      Happy sprucin’ :)

  10. Morgan MacDonald

    Haha, I just happened to watch this while straightening my hair and putting on make-up this morning! Love it :)

    On my “blah” days, I spend 10 minutes free writing. I put all my “blah” into a stream-of-consciousness dump, and I usually have much more clarity about my mood afterward!

    1. Nikki Elledge Brown

      Go Morgan! Totally not surprised that you deal with blahs by writing.

      P.S. YOU ARE A SUPERSTAR! ***Everyone, Morgan is a regular contributor to my POP school fundraiser…and for that and many other reasons, she is amazing. If you need an editor, click that link! ^^^ ***

  11. Tina Halvorson

    I loved this video. I’m sure there are so many who can relate. I wanted to share with you the one thing I do to help myself feel better is to use my essential oils. It’s a fast pick me up and you will smell heavenly. Check out my website for more info. Great post.

    1. Nikki Elledge Brown

      Thanks, Tina!

      I actually busted out my YL kit yesterday for the first time in months – this funk called for more than my usual blah-busters. Look forward to learning more about the world of EO :)

  12. berrnadette penotti

    Right on Nikki- Let’s Adorn Ourselves to Feel Awesome!
    Some of my Fave Pick-Me- Ups- actually do these every morning:

    1-Quick Dry Brush of my whole body and face to get Circulation and Tingles
    in my body going, as well as a nice Pink Glow :)
    2- Get Outside right away into Daylight/Sunshine and stretch or jump around.
    (On my roof here in NYC, I like to use my rebounder, but simple Jumping Jacks work too.)
    3- Shower or jump into any body of water, dry off, Anoint myself with glorious Essential Oils, mmmm!
    4- Yes! Get dressed up, and use a touch of eye makeup. For me it’s important to put lovely shoes on with my rockin’ outfit, then I feel like a Super Power :)

    Love and Happy Snappy Dress-Ups to All!

    1. Nikki Elledge Brown

      Glorious, Berrnadette! Jumping on your NYC rooftop sounds fun :)

  13. Susan

    OH! You really nailed it today! And for the flylady fan – YUP! you are right, I’ve been doing her regimen for years, all BUT that one little step. Not writing more – just telling you that I am marching over to get some makeup on right now. You are the best, Nikki!

  14. Elle

    This works great! The day after I gave birth to Amelia, I wanted to get the heck out of the hospital even thought I was exhausted and worn out. So I took a shower and did up my hair and makeup and the doctor said “go home”! Yea. But it helped me a lot!!

    But i do appreciate a day in jammie pants all day every once an a while.

    You are too cute! Don’t worry about being fake! The glossies are growing on me.

    <3

    Elle

    1. Nikki Elledge Brown

      Thanks, Elle :)

      And YES, I absolutely love jammie days…when they’re intentional. When they’re symbolic of my mindset of the day, they’re…kind of soul-crushing.

      Too extreme??

  15. Terri

    Put on perfume. It’s hard to be in a funk when you smell fabulous. Think about it, you can’t see your makeup but you can smell your perfume.

    1. Nikki Elledge Brown

      Good idea, Terri! I actually haven’t worn perfume in years…probably because I’m a) naturally sneezy, and b) too lazy to find the perfect scent.

      Time to reevaluate!

  16. oeda

    Hi Nikki
    Great tip, one I have been folowing myself for a long time now. I feel so much better after a shower and some nice bodylotion and I actually really enjoy finding clothes to wear for this new day. I try to always start my day with a walk, fresh air works wonders for my mood and when I used to walk my kids to school when they were young, I used to love singing with them on the way or just chatting.
    Love the pics of you on your new website.
    x

    1. Nikki Elledge Brown

      Thank you so much, Oeda! I’m right there with you. We take walks by Pearl Harbor almost daily…the park and path by the channel is my sanctuary. Food for the soul!

  17. Sarah Jordan

    You are absolutely right, Nikki. I love to wear my favorite necklaces and rings but I noticed I only wear makeup when I have coaching calls. It makes a big difference in how I actually feel though. My Grandmother always said, “always dress up because you never know who you are going to meet.”

    1. Nikki Elledge Brown

      Agreed, Sarah!

      And the heart of this challenge is to get dressed even if you’re not leaving the house. Because it makes YOU feel better, it’s worth the effort.

  18. Valerie

    and…you caught me in my pajamas at 10am. Way to call me out Nikki! lol. Challenge accepted! I’m also a FlyLady follower. I always feel more productive when I’m dressed with my hair done and just a bit of eyeliner and mascara to make my eyes light up. And yes! having shoes on makes me feel even more productive.

    Today’s post was a joy, thanks for sharing!

    1. Nikki Elledge Brown

      Haha got YOOOOU, Valerie! Glad you liked this one :)

  19. Eme

    Reminds me of something I read. I think it was kari chapman on handmade business and one of the tips that she or one of her experts gave was this: when working from home and u have a deadline or an important task she would get dressed AND wear the highest heels in her wardrobe. It immediately put her head in that space of the high powered professional and made her get lots of stuff done. In fact the reward for getting the task done was to take off the shoes!

    Love this post.

    Years ago I picked up the habit of getting dressed to shoes every morning from flylady and it really does affect your state of mind. But yes! We can still step it up even more! Makeup, earrings, ironed clothes!! Lol

    1. Nikki Elledge Brown

      Love it, Eme!

      We don’t wear shoes inside (homes) in Hawaii, BUT I do have my “A Course About Copy” heels in my closet upstairs…and they’re pretty fab. When I get back from TX, I’m definitely trying this one :)

  20. Jen Kiaba

    Uhm, wardrobe mullet? That’s hilarious! I love it. But you’re so right, having a pj day every now and then is ok, but on the regular it makes me feel gross! Glad to know I’m not alone.

  21. Deanne

    Such an important transparent moment sister! Grateful you shared this. Yeah so I struggle with this too and when my site launched I felt I have a responsibility in life to take care of myself, so that I reflect this image of what I truly am and when I go somewhere and bump into someone I can truly embody how I always wish to look and feel. So it happened! I got a call from a friend who’s a yoga teacher in my country Jamaica to come visit for the weekend, knowing I wanted to just stop by and see my mother in law I just packed some basics and left the makeup. I had just decided to grow out my eyebrows recently and so it was a little interesting, and I get ready fly to Jamaica go see my friend and she tells me she needs me to be in her yoga DVD which was going to be filmed the next morning. This is a fun and great opportunity for me so I accept, totally forgetting I had brought no makeup!!! My friend and I don’t have the same skin tone and there goes I wake up morning of the shoot with a big zit on my forehead. So there, even though I managed and I’m certain it’s all good woman, I laughed through the process and said to myself, “man, you just always have to be prepared.” So the lesson, don’t be a freak about it but like you say get dressed. Get ready. Be how you always wish to see yourself if ever your asked to spontaneously co-star on some video! Yeah no big deal but the reward, always confident! Today I shaved after a week. That helps me feel I’m back. Lots of love Nikki. Great post. Dee

    1. Nikki Elledge Brown

      You NEVER know when you’ll be asked to co-star in a video! Preach it, Dee ;)

  22. Rachel

    Love the challenge! I was telling a friend yesterday how I love working from home, but have let myself go to hell and am feeling a bit bad about it. Perfect timing!

    P.S. Would also love to take this party to IG!

    1. Nikki Elledge Brown

      Do it, Rachel! I signed up for an account but haven’t posted a thing yet. I’m @nikkielledgebrown. I think ;)

  23. Ozge

    Oh LOL :D So cute and inspiring. I work corporate at the moment in between being a work from home academic and to-be entrepreneur, but I still have a challenge for myself to make my day: “no jeans! if wearing jeans, put on stilettos!” and then I have to get creative in the mornings, great “blah-avoider” and makes my day.. xo

    1. Nikki Elledge Brown

      Oh how I LOVE jeans + stilettos! Ahhh…it’s been too long since I sported that look.

      Great challenge, Ozge :)

  24. Jan

    This post is a very timely one, where I am concerned. I’ve been in a funk quite a bit lately, especially with a toddler having bad nights. Yesterday I showered, dressed and left the house for coffee with a lot more vibrance than normal, considering how little sleep I got the night before.

    Today, I’m dressed again, and although my style is casual, I feel set for the day. I might even put some jewellery and lip gloss on ;)

  25. Marsha Shandur

    Love this!!

    I have phases where I’ll put something proper on every day, but still a feel blah…. In these moments, my pick-me-up is to ramp it up a bit, and put on something kind of fancy. Having a posh frock on can do wonders for the old self-esteem – especially if you pair it with a non-fancy cardigan, in a sort of Kate Moss – “oh this old thing? I just threw it on” way!

  26. Tamsen Horton

    So well said! You’ve made me smile once again :)

  27. ReBecca Shotton

    “Let’s get dressed.” Omg, this made me Laugh Out Loud. You are so right though, the shlumpier I am with how I’m ready to face the world, the less ready I am to face the world- even if it’s only via email or phone calls.

    My tip would be to M O V E. Often times I start doing business work sitting on my bed and just moving to the office helps a lot, or taking a short walk outside. It seems to jumpstart the forward movement from literal to figurative.

    Great job recognizing that this is a “thing”, and yet it’s soooo common! Now when I run into you at Walgreens, I’ll be wondering why you’re wearing tennis shoes. :)

    1. Nikki Elledge Brown

      Ha! I do limit the tennis shoes to my walks, howev I could totally step up my shoe game over here. It’s flip flops (known as “slippers” in Hawaii) errrrrr day. And it’s time for cuter ones :)

  28. Michelle

    Ha ha LOVE this (she says….at 12.30pm sat in her PJs, baby on knee in PJs and 2 year old running around butt naked). I feel totally lazy right now so pretty blah so on that note I’m off to GET. DRESSED!! I’m in!!

  29. Samantha

    It’s so funny because before I even got this email, yesterday I was dressed up just because and I also work from home. My three year old repeatedly asked me where is was going! Even my mother (business partner) said where ya going? Nowhere! I realized they weren’t used to me all fancied up with nowhere to be. There really is a lot to be said about getting dressed and even having your shoes on. Your ready to go at a moments notice, you are more motivated to clean the house, and do your job! This is a neat challenge. Count me in!

    1. Nikki Elledge Brown

      Wahoo, Samantha! YES. We don’t actually wear shoes inside in Hawaii (after six years, it’s a habit now), BUT I may even experiment with a mobile workplace…taking my laptop and heading out to find wifi somewhere to see what happens :)

  30. Carrie Willard

    Absolutely agree! I am a stay at home, homeschooling, blogging mom of 7. Every morning I get up at 5:30, do my face and get dressed and head to Starbucks to work for a couple of hours before my husband leaves for work. It’s wonderful to have to go somewhere everyday that I need to dress cute for!

    1. Nikki Elledge Brown

      YES! Lately I just get dressed for myself. If I don’t do it within the first 20 minutes or so of waking up, it probably won’t happen *unless* I have a meeting with another person :P

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