“I have to be thin/organized/otherwise perfect to be successful.”
“If I’m not going to be the #1 expert in the field (#oprah), I shouldn’t even try.”
“If I’m not working hard (i.e. near burnout), I don’t deserve to make money.”
Any of these sound familiar?
GOOD. Because I’ve got just the guest to help you flip ’em into powerful mindset shifts that will help you clear the way to make more money without adding MORE stress and overwhelm to your business.
Her name is Denise Duffield-Thomas, money mindset mentor, and I couldn’t be more excited to introduce you to her today.
In this interview-slash-training sesh, we’ll cover Denise’s top tips for:
- babyproofing your business (YES, I had to ask…I’ve never done this with a newborn! ;))
- shifting your mindset to get your first book DONE
- making these SEVEN crucial mindset shifts so you can create something amazing + enjoy the benefits of (mostly) passive income as you get paid for it over and over (and over)
Oh, quick #momalert: Denise’s biz is titled Lucky B*t@#. I spell it once (toddler-mom-style), and she says it just once. Just be mindful of tiny ears in the room if that’s not part of your daily dinner table lingo ;)
Click below to watch (or take a listen):
MORE FROM DENISE
NOTE: These are affiliate links since I have been through + loved her program and think you will too. If you end up making any purchases on the other side of the click rainbow, I’ll get a “thank you” commission for sending you her way. #winwinwin!
IN A (COCO)NUT SHELL
1. Get reeeally honest about the fears and beliefs you’ve got about having a successful business while growing a family.
i.e. I won’t be able to be a great mom AND grow my business.
Find proof of why that doesn’t need to be true – inspiration from others who have been there, done, that, and clear it. Lather, rinse, repeat.
2. BATCH. Create systems and content ahead of time so that you can stay in touch and add value to your community even while you take time off.
On Writing a Book
Give yourself permission to be imperfect, get out of your own way, and do it.
Writing a book still adds mega-credibility (even though literally ANYONE can write and self-publish these days!) – so hop on it!
THE MINDSET SHIFTS
Myth #1: I have to be everything to everyone.
The truth: Nope. You don’t. Pick a niche and own your zone of genius. (OR, as I like to do, share whatever you want to share with a particular audience in mind.)
Remember that you’re the boss – you get to pick what you want to talk about and create.
Myth #2: I have to be perfect in order to be successful.
The truth: Nope. You don’t. Everybody starts somewhere. First client. First subscriber. First sale. If you feel like you have to have everything in place to start, you never will!
You START by being imperfect and you CONTINUE by being imperfect.
As I always say: It doesn’t need to be perfect; it just needs to be shared.
Myth #3: Everybody will think I’m a fraud.
The truth: You can’t win ’em all. Not everybody likes everything, and that’s okay. The anticipation of that first criticism/hater is often way worse than the actual sting!
Surround yourself with proof that builds you UP so that you can take that criticism and keep on’ moving. Here’s a blog post where I share five sweet ways to handle it.
Myth #4: I have to be Oprah of my industry, or I shouldn’t even try.
The truth: Somebody out there needs to hear it from YOU. I’ve got a post on this one too. Take the pressure off of yourself. You don’t have to be THE VOICE of this field (although you totally can be!). It’s okay to just add your flavor to the conversation. You have so much value to add!
To get over yourself, focus on the people who need what you have to share :)
Myth #5: I have to work really hard to make money.
The truth: Denise and I both struggle with this one. Big time. You don’t have to be exhausted, frazzled, and miserable to “earn” your money. You really don’t.
When you find yourself overcomplicating things, saying “no” to fun time with friends and family, and burning the midnight oil every. single night, it’s time to reevaluate and remind yourself: It’s not about working harder. It’s about adding more value. And that can be FUN if you let it.
Myth #6: This should be free for everyone.
The truth: It probably is. Just about everything under the sun is just a google search away. That said – people are happy to pay for convenience, YOUR take, extra bells and whistles you’ve added, etc. They want to save time, save money, experience XYZ, and take the path of least resistance.
Don’t make assumptions about other people’s spending habits. (They’re grown ups.) Your job is to create something great and tell them about it. If they want your flavor o’ value, they’ll happily pay for it. #hellodreamclients
Myth #7: I don’t care about the money; I just want to help people.
The truth: You can do BOTH! It’s OKAY for you to make money doing something you genuinely enjoy. (That’s what we call “livin’ the dream,” dude.) When you stop the flow and insist on giving, giving, giving without opening up to receive, you’ve got a recipe for burnout.
Charge well for what you do (Denise can help with that). That balanced value exchange will enable + inspire you to do MORE, and everybody wins in that case.
To really bring it home, try saying Denise’s fave mantra out loud, hand on heart:
“I serve; I deserve.”
(And you can find an entire library of her “It’s safe” mantras here.)
Above all, remember:
The day you decide to do it is your lucky day.
1. Check out Denise’s book, course, and other free trainings via the links just below the video above.
2. In the comments below, tell me:
Which of these mindset shifts resonates with YOU the most?
(More importantly, what will you do to shift it?)
As both Denise and my friend Susan Ferraro teach, we’ve gotta own the good, the bad, AND the ugly to make room for what we really want.
Let’s do this.
To clearing the mental clutter,
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