Compassion fatigue is a thing.

Just got home from visiting these brilliant friends of mine in San Francisco.

We had an amazing time AND also couldn’t ignore that each day you could see (taste, breathe) more of the smoke rolling in from other parts of CA, slowly hiding the SF skyline from view.

When Harvey hit my hometown it meant so much to see that people outside of Houston were “with us” in any form — thoughts, prayers, and especially tangible support for those who needed it most.

In that spirit, I have a few thoughts + resources with YOU today:

If you’ve been seeing images, hearing stories, and you have the capacity to turn your heartbreak into action, consider donating to an org like @together.rising or @lafdfoundation today.

Even simply sharing a list of vetted resources with your network can be helpful – to YOU, to the ones who need support, and to those also feeling a desire to OFFER support in a more tangible way.

That said – not everyone has the capacity to support right now. That’s okay.

If you’re feeling unusually affected or even immobilized by the fires (and / or any collective tragedy on your heart) – this post by Houston psychotherapist Elizabeth Haberer may be more in line with what you need right now.

It’s from 2017, written with Harvey + flooding in mind, but the heart of the message is evergreen:

“…If your home is intact, you may feel forced to say ‘great, I am lucky’ when asked how things are with you, because you are, in many respects, but please remember that we have survived a collective traumatic experience. Your body, nervous system, spirit, and heart are likely a kind of tired and overwhelmed that is bone deep- and that is to be expected. You are not alone. You are ok, and you are not ok. Both things are true. Its ok to take a break. It’s ok to seek help. We are in this together.”

Compassion fatigue is a thing, and in a world as connected as ours, its reach goes far beyond our local communities.

All that to say, wherever you are: Please take care of you.

If you need support, ask for + allow it. If you can give support, give it.

We need each other. Moments like this offer countless opportunities to prove it.

Thanks for playing your part.